Black meteorologist fired for responding to negative comments about her hair

But don’t worry, no one involved in this scenario was racist. *Sigh*

Clutch Magazine reported that Rhonda A. Lee, a meteorologist at an ABC affiliate in Shreveport, Louisiana, was referenced in this post by a viewer on Facebook:

“the black lady that does the news is a very nice lady.the only thing is she needs to wear a wig or grow some more hair. im not sure if she is a cancer patient. but still its not something myself that i think looks good on tv. what about letting someone a male have waist long hair do the news.what about that (cq).”

Rhonda responded:

“Hello Emmitt–I am the ‘black lady’ to which you are referring. I’m sorry you don’t like my ethnic hair. And no I don’t have cancer. I’m a non-smoking, 5’3, 121 lbs, 25 mile a week running, 37.5 year old woman, and I’m in perfectly healthy physical condition.

I am very proud of my African-American ancestry which includes my hair. For your edification: traditionally our hair doesn’t grow downward. It grows upward. Many Black women use strong straightening agents in order to achieve a more European grade of hair and that is their choice. However in my case I don’t find it necessary. I’m very proud of who I am and the standard of beauty I display. Women come in all shapes, sizes, nationalities, and levels of beauty. Showing little girls that being comfortable in the skin and HAIR God gave me is my contribution to society. Little girls (and boys for that matter) need to see that what you look like isn’t a reason to not achieve their goals.

Conforming to one standard isn’t what being American is about and I hope you can embrace that.

Thank you for your comment and have a great weekend and thank for watching.”

Despite the fact that there is no cited policy that Lee violated, she was fired from her job. Her boss reports that the policy was not written down but was mentioned in a meeting that Lee did not attend. Oh, the shade! 

This story breaks just months after a white news anchor was championed for speaking out, on air, against an online bully who made insensitive and fat-shaming comments about her weight. She had the full support of her job, coworkers (which included her husband), and the general public.

Emmitt, the original poster in Rhonda’s case, responded that he is not racist (*big sigh of relief*) but…

“ . . this world has … certain standerd (cq). if youve come from a world of being poor are you going to dress in rags?…”

Leave it to someone whose spelling and grammar skills are mediocre at best to remind us that if you are not a member of the dominant (read: white, patriarchal) group, you need to assimilate in order to be accepted.

KTBS 3 News has since released a statement saying that Lee was fired for repeatedly violating the station’s written procedure about social media interactions. We should also feel better because they also fired a white man.

I seriously can’t roll my eyes hard enough.

Chivalry should not be dead. [But really, it should be. Here’s why:]

i’m going need to go ahead and push back on this one. chivalry damn well should be dead. it’s sexist to the core (not to mention the ways in which it upholds the gender binary — what on earth would happen in these instances if we were to replace the “male” or “female” with a non-binary trans* person), while conveniently parading around under the guise of “courteousness.” marilyn frye can unpack its detrimental nature far better than i can, when she examines the age old man open’s door for woman example of chivalry in her piece “oppression:”

 Look at the scene of the two people approaching a door. The male steps slightly ahead and opens the door. The male holds the door open while the female glides through. Then the male goes through. The door closes after them. “Now how,” one innocently asks, “can those crazy womenslibbers say that is oppressive? The guy removed a barrier to the lady’s smooth and unruffled progress.” But each repetition of this ritual has a place in a pattern, in fact in several patterns. One has to shift the level of one’s perception in order to see the whole picture.

The door-opening pretends to be a helpful service, but the helpfulness is false. This can be seen by noting that it will be done whether or not it makes any practical sense. Infirm men and men burdened with packages will open doors for able-bodied women who are free of physical burdens. Men will impose themselves awkwardly and jostle everyone in order to get to the door first. The act is not determined by convenience or grace. Furthermore, these very numerous acts of unneeded or even noisome “help” occur in counter-point to a pattern of men not being helpful in many practical ways in which women might welcome help. What women experience is a world in which gallant princes charming commonly make a fuss about being helpful and providing small services when help and services are of little or no use, but in which there are rarely ingenious and adroit princes at hand when substantial assistance is really wanted either in mundane affairs or in situations of threat, assault or terror. There is no help with the (his) laundry; no help typing a report at 4:00 a.m.; no help in mediating disputes among relatives or children. There is nothing but advice that women should stay indoors after dark, be chaperoned by a man, or when it comes down to it, “lie back and enjoy it.”

The gallant gestures have no practical meaning. Their meaning is symbolic. The door-opening and similar services provided are services which really are needed by people who are for one reason or another incapacitated – unwell, burdened with parcels, etc. So the message is that women are incapable. The detachment of the acts from the concrete realities of what women need and do not need is a vehicle for the message that women’s actual needs and interests are unimportant or irrelevant. Finally, these gestures imitate the behavior of servants toward masters and thus mock women, who are in most respects the servants and caretakers of men. The message of the false helpfulness of male gallantry is female dependence, the invisibility or insignificance of women, and contempt for women. [Source]


 

[TW: Rape, sexual assault]

Dear Mr. Mourdock,

Sometimes I still flinch when I’m touched a certain way, even if it’s the loving embrace of my husband. I can’t stand to watch TV shows where rape is the central plot line. Even some seasons of the year are harder for me. Those of us who are sexual assault survivors call these triggers. We spend our lives — the lives we lead after the attack — avoiding and managing these triggers.

A congressional debate shouldn’t have to come with a trigger warning. But apparently, Richard, yours should. Because in Tuesday’s debate for Indiana’s U.S. Senate seat, you said this Tuesday night during a debate in New Albany, Indiana.

“I believe that life begins at conception…The only exception I have, to have an abortion, is in that case of the life of the mother. I’ve struggled with it myself for a long time, but I came to realize that life is that gift from God. And even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen.”

Rape and sexual assault are complicated experiences for survivors. Some of us fight, kick, scream, and resist at every moment. Some of us eventually give in to save our own lives or to manage the horror. Some of us know that what is happening is rape, others of us just know it is wrong, but don’t have the words to describe why. Some of us push the memories down and try to forget, others of us battle openly with the nightmares and scars every day. There is no one right way to survive. There is no one right way to feel.

As we heal, we learn not to judge ourselves or to judge our fellow survivors, because we learn that judgment can wound as deeply as assault. If a woman finds herself pregnant after a rape, we do not judge the choices she makes.

I am descended from American slaves. I have foremothers who found themselves pregnant with children whose birth increased the wealth of the very man who enslaved and raped them. Somehow, through the angst and misery of that experience some of those women found a way to love and embrace the children they bore from rape. So I do not doubt the compassion or judge the choice of a survivor who carries a rape pregnancy to term.

But the whole point is choice. Consent. You see, Mr. Mourdock, the violation of rape is more than physical. Rapists strip women of our right to choose, of our right to say no, of our right to control what is happening to our bodies. Most assailants tell us it is our fault. They tell us to be silent. Sometimes they even tell us it’s God’s will. That is the core violation of rape– it takes away choice.

Richard, you believe it is fine to ignore a women’s right to choose because of your interpretation of divinity. Sound familiar?

Let me explain something to you. When we survive sexual assault, we are the gift. When we survive, when we go on to love, to work, to speak out, to have fun, to laugh, to dance, to cry, tolive, when we do that, we defeat our attackers. For a moment, they strip us of our choices. As we heal, we take our choices back. We are the gift to ourselves, our families, our communities, and our nation when we survive.

Now let me say this very clearly to you Mr Mourdock, and to all of your shameless endorsers: we did not survive an attack on our consent just to turn around and give up our right to choose to you. Not without a fight.

Are you sure you want to have that fight?

Sincerely,

Melissa

You Don’t Own Me PSA.

Watch, share, and go vote on November 6th! Your reproductive rights depend on it!

Also, feel the need to critique the cissexism present in this video. Not only women have their reproductive rights at stake here.

My girlfriend and I would just like to point out that Candy Crowley was the first women moderater of a presidential debate in TWENTY YEARS and she KILLED IT.

"People should consider getting married before having babies."

Mitt Romney

Um FUCK YOU, Mitt. I’m everything you wish your kids could be and I was raised by a single mother. She’s a better parent than you ever have been or ever will be. I’m out. FUCK YOU.

"Resistance is simply a measure of success"
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[TW: Rape]

If God has chosen to bless [someone who is raped] with a life, you don’t kill it.

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GOP Committeewoman Sharon Barnes, Missouri, defending Rep. Todd Akin (R-MO) in an interview with The New York Times

[Trigger warning: Abortion, Medical Waste] [Images: First image, top row: Chalk on brick that says, “We will NOT go back,” with a drawing of a crossed out wire coat-hanger. Second image, top row says, “I <3 Planned Parenthood.” Second row: A picture of the brick forum, covered in pro-choice and reproductive justice chalk slogans, including “Your body, your choice,” “Abortion is not shameful,” and “Pro-Woman, Pro-Choice.” Third row, first image: Three anti-choice signs on stands. The chalk below reads “Citation Needed” and “Stop the war on women.” Third row, second and third images: Wide view of the brick forum covered in pro-choice, reproductive justice related chalk.

As promised, here are the photos from this morning! Hope you enjoy them. We handed out over a 100 condoms!

"It is not the anger of other women that will destroy us, but our refusals to stand still, to listen to its rhythms, to learn within it, to move beyond the manner of presentation to the substance, to tap that anger as an important source of empowerment. I cannot hide my my anger to spare you guilt, nor hurt feelings, nor answering anger; for to do so insults and trivializes all our efforts. Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action."
Audre Lorde, The Uses of Anger
"Meanwhile, those somebodies who claim they’re ‘pro-life’ aren’t moved to help the living. They’re not out there fighting to break the stranglehold of drugs and violence in our communities, trying to save our children or moving to provide infant and maternal nutrition and health programs. Eradicating poverty isn’t on their agenda. No—somebody’s too busy picketing, vandalizing, and sometimes bombing family-planning clinics, harassing women and denying funds to poor women seeking abortions."
We Remember: African-American Women for Reproductive Freedom (source)
"For this reason, the word ‘privilege’ now seems to me misleading. Its connotations are too positive to fit the conditions and behaviors which ‘privilege systems’ produce. We usually think of privilege as being a favored state, whether earned or conferred by birth or luck. […] The kind of privilege which gives license to some people to be, at best, thoughtless, and at worst, murderous should not continue to be referred to as a desirable attribute. Such ‘privilege’ may be widely desired without being in any way beneficial to the whole society."
Peggy McIntosh, Unpacking Privilege: The Invisible Knapsack

Komen For The Cure Halts Grants To Planned Parenthood

NEW YORK — The nation’s leading breast-cancer charity, Susan G. Komen for the Cure, is halting its partnerships with Planned Parenthood affiliates – creating a bitter rift, linked to the abortion debate, between two iconic organizations that have assisted millions of women.

The change will mean a cutoff of hundreds of thousands of dollars in grants, mainly for breast exams.

Planned Parenthood says the move results from Komen bowing to pressure from anti-abortion activists. Komen says the key reason is that Planned Parenthood is under investigation in Congress – a probe launched by a conservative Republican who was urged to act by anti-abortion groups.

The rupture, which has not been publicly announced as it unfolded, is wrenching for some of those who’ve learned about it and admire both organizations.

"We’re kind of reeling," said Patrick Hurd, who is CEO of Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Virginia – recipient of a 2010 grant from Komen – and whose wife, Betsi, is a veteran of several Komen fundraising races and is currently battling breast cancer.

"It sounds almost trite, going through this with Betsi, but cancer doesn’t care if you’re pro-choice, anti-choice, progressive, conservative," Hurd said. "Victims of cancer could care less about people’s politics."

Read more here.

"cancer doesn’t care if you’re pro-choice, anti-choice, progressive, conservative…"

[Image: A screenshot of an ask post from Socialistexan. Anonymous asked, &#8220;Can you make a list of reasons why you&#8217;re pro-choice?&#8221; Socialistexan replied, &#8220;Because a woman should have control over her own body. List over.&#8221;]
Couldn&#8217;t have said this better myself. The perfect answer.

[Image: A screenshot of an ask post from Socialistexan. Anonymous asked, “Can you make a list of reasons why you’re pro-choice?” Socialistexan replied, “Because a woman should have control over her own body. List over.”]

Couldn’t have said this better myself. The perfect answer.