"Because it does seem, many days, as though there must be something. Some reason, some additional aid, some unknown or unseen process that keeps butches doggedly following their hearts, and their hearts’ desires, long after similar opposition or resistance would stop many people. And the ideal of butch, however much we may or may not be able to live up to it, is that a butch is both gentle and tough, decisive and ethical, strong and kind, hard-working and playful. Not to mention the neat trick of balancing somehow for millennia in a no-man’s-land between man and woman, which I would love to refer to with a less sexist term like DMZ, but it sure as hell ain’t that: the forces of gender come for butches every day, and they must be ready to fight or flee."
S. Bear Bergman, Butch is a Noun, pg. 111
"What are you supposed to do when someone asks you to “prove” that feminism isn’t a massive conspiracy theory in a country where we’ve only had 39 female senators in the nation’s entire history, and 20 of them are serving right now? What kind of a stupid fucking question is that? What are you supposed to say when the 8,000th faux-incredulous jackass throws you the same argument about the wage gap or the draft or bumbling dads in Tide commercials—as though holding each of their hands individually through the empirical facts of the world around us is a worthwhile use of my time. As though feminist academics haven’t filled books (decades of books) with answers to that shit already. As though they believe that if they can keep you occupied refuting their flimsy trump cards over and over forever, they can stave off any changes to the culture that keeps them on top."
"‎”Most citizens of this nation [US] still do not understand the link between male domination and male violence in the home. And that failure to understand is underscored as our nation is called upon to respond to violent murders of family members, friends, and schoolmates by young males of all classes. In mass media, everyone raises the question of why this violence is taking place without linking it to patriarchal thinking.”"
bell hooks, Feminism is for Everyone, pg. 113
knowhomo:


LGBTQ* Political Cartoons You May Have Missed
GAY MARRIAGE
BY RANDY BISH, PITTSBURGH TRIBUNE-REVIEW  -  12/13/2012 12:00:00 AM




for real though? i’m really sick of having to continuously be the only person calling these white, mainstream, assimilationist blogs out on their bullshit (here’s looking at you knowhomo and gaywrites). i swear the only reason i still follow their drivel is bc they are STILL posting this crap.
in fact, knowhomo, you’ve been called out on this kind of thing before, to such an extent that you deleted the post (which i conveniently have here) and issued a (hollow) apology bc you still haven’t seemed to learn your lesson. this is exactly how the assimilationist queer movement goes about isolating queer women, queer POC, trans* people, and low income queers. for god’s sake, this is the second post like this i’ve had to call out in less than two weeks. 
let me repeat myself because you all don’t seem to get it:
THE GAY MARRIAGE DEBATE IS NOT ANALOGOUS TO COVERTURE LAWS, ANTI-MISCEGENATION LAWS, OR THE BRUTAL ENSLAVEMENT OF AN ENTIRE RACE AND THEIR CONTINUED OPPRESSION.
stop appropriating other oppressions to advance your agenda. that shit ain’t cute.

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Political Cartoons You May Have Missed

GAY MARRIAGE

for real though? i’m really sick of having to continuously be the only person calling these white, mainstream, assimilationist blogs out on their bullshit (here’s looking at you knowhomo and gaywrites). i swear the only reason i still follow their drivel is bc they are STILL posting this crap.

in fact, knowhomo, you’ve been called out on this kind of thing before, to such an extent that you deleted the post (which i conveniently have here) and issued a (hollow) apology bc you still haven’t seemed to learn your lesson. this is exactly how the assimilationist queer movement goes about isolating queer women, queer POC, trans* people, and low income queers. for god’s sake, this is the second post like this i’ve had to call out in less than two weeks. 

let me repeat myself because you all don’t seem to get it:

THE GAY MARRIAGE DEBATE IS NOT ANALOGOUS TO COVERTURE LAWSANTI-MISCEGENATION LAWS, OR THE BRUTAL ENSLAVEMENT OF AN ENTIRE RACE AND THEIR CONTINUED OPPRESSION.

stop appropriating other oppressions to advance your agenda. that shit ain’t cute.

Black meteorologist fired for responding to negative comments about her hair

But don’t worry, no one involved in this scenario was racist. *Sigh*

Clutch Magazine reported that Rhonda A. Lee, a meteorologist at an ABC affiliate in Shreveport, Louisiana, was referenced in this post by a viewer on Facebook:

“the black lady that does the news is a very nice lady.the only thing is she needs to wear a wig or grow some more hair. im not sure if she is a cancer patient. but still its not something myself that i think looks good on tv. what about letting someone a male have waist long hair do the news.what about that (cq).”

Rhonda responded:

“Hello Emmitt–I am the ‘black lady’ to which you are referring. I’m sorry you don’t like my ethnic hair. And no I don’t have cancer. I’m a non-smoking, 5’3, 121 lbs, 25 mile a week running, 37.5 year old woman, and I’m in perfectly healthy physical condition.

I am very proud of my African-American ancestry which includes my hair. For your edification: traditionally our hair doesn’t grow downward. It grows upward. Many Black women use strong straightening agents in order to achieve a more European grade of hair and that is their choice. However in my case I don’t find it necessary. I’m very proud of who I am and the standard of beauty I display. Women come in all shapes, sizes, nationalities, and levels of beauty. Showing little girls that being comfortable in the skin and HAIR God gave me is my contribution to society. Little girls (and boys for that matter) need to see that what you look like isn’t a reason to not achieve their goals.

Conforming to one standard isn’t what being American is about and I hope you can embrace that.

Thank you for your comment and have a great weekend and thank for watching.”

Despite the fact that there is no cited policy that Lee violated, she was fired from her job. Her boss reports that the policy was not written down but was mentioned in a meeting that Lee did not attend. Oh, the shade! 

This story breaks just months after a white news anchor was championed for speaking out, on air, against an online bully who made insensitive and fat-shaming comments about her weight. She had the full support of her job, coworkers (which included her husband), and the general public.

Emmitt, the original poster in Rhonda’s case, responded that he is not racist (*big sigh of relief*) but…

“ . . this world has … certain standerd (cq). if youve come from a world of being poor are you going to dress in rags?…”

Leave it to someone whose spelling and grammar skills are mediocre at best to remind us that if you are not a member of the dominant (read: white, patriarchal) group, you need to assimilate in order to be accepted.

KTBS 3 News has since released a statement saying that Lee was fired for repeatedly violating the station’s written procedure about social media interactions. We should also feel better because they also fired a white man.

I seriously can’t roll my eyes hard enough.

Chivalry should not be dead. [But really, it should be. Here’s why:]

i’m going need to go ahead and push back on this one. chivalry damn well should be dead. it’s sexist to the core (not to mention the ways in which it upholds the gender binary — what on earth would happen in these instances if we were to replace the “male” or “female” with a non-binary trans* person), while conveniently parading around under the guise of “courteousness.” marilyn frye can unpack its detrimental nature far better than i can, when she examines the age old man open’s door for woman example of chivalry in her piece “oppression:”

 Look at the scene of the two people approaching a door. The male steps slightly ahead and opens the door. The male holds the door open while the female glides through. Then the male goes through. The door closes after them. “Now how,” one innocently asks, “can those crazy womenslibbers say that is oppressive? The guy removed a barrier to the lady’s smooth and unruffled progress.” But each repetition of this ritual has a place in a pattern, in fact in several patterns. One has to shift the level of one’s perception in order to see the whole picture.

The door-opening pretends to be a helpful service, but the helpfulness is false. This can be seen by noting that it will be done whether or not it makes any practical sense. Infirm men and men burdened with packages will open doors for able-bodied women who are free of physical burdens. Men will impose themselves awkwardly and jostle everyone in order to get to the door first. The act is not determined by convenience or grace. Furthermore, these very numerous acts of unneeded or even noisome “help” occur in counter-point to a pattern of men not being helpful in many practical ways in which women might welcome help. What women experience is a world in which gallant princes charming commonly make a fuss about being helpful and providing small services when help and services are of little or no use, but in which there are rarely ingenious and adroit princes at hand when substantial assistance is really wanted either in mundane affairs or in situations of threat, assault or terror. There is no help with the (his) laundry; no help typing a report at 4:00 a.m.; no help in mediating disputes among relatives or children. There is nothing but advice that women should stay indoors after dark, be chaperoned by a man, or when it comes down to it, “lie back and enjoy it.”

The gallant gestures have no practical meaning. Their meaning is symbolic. The door-opening and similar services provided are services which really are needed by people who are for one reason or another incapacitated – unwell, burdened with parcels, etc. So the message is that women are incapable. The detachment of the acts from the concrete realities of what women need and do not need is a vehicle for the message that women’s actual needs and interests are unimportant or irrelevant. Finally, these gestures imitate the behavior of servants toward masters and thus mock women, who are in most respects the servants and caretakers of men. The message of the false helpfulness of male gallantry is female dependence, the invisibility or insignificance of women, and contempt for women. [Source]


 

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[TW: Rape, sexual assault]

Dear Mr. Mourdock,

Sometimes I still flinch when I’m touched a certain way, even if it’s the loving embrace of my husband. I can’t stand to watch TV shows where rape is the central plot line. Even some seasons of the year are harder for me. Those of us who are sexual assault survivors call these triggers. We spend our lives — the lives we lead after the attack — avoiding and managing these triggers.

A congressional debate shouldn’t have to come with a trigger warning. But apparently, Richard, yours should. Because in Tuesday’s debate for Indiana’s U.S. Senate seat, you said this Tuesday night during a debate in New Albany, Indiana.

“I believe that life begins at conception…The only exception I have, to have an abortion, is in that case of the life of the mother. I’ve struggled with it myself for a long time, but I came to realize that life is that gift from God. And even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen.”

Rape and sexual assault are complicated experiences for survivors. Some of us fight, kick, scream, and resist at every moment. Some of us eventually give in to save our own lives or to manage the horror. Some of us know that what is happening is rape, others of us just know it is wrong, but don’t have the words to describe why. Some of us push the memories down and try to forget, others of us battle openly with the nightmares and scars every day. There is no one right way to survive. There is no one right way to feel.

As we heal, we learn not to judge ourselves or to judge our fellow survivors, because we learn that judgment can wound as deeply as assault. If a woman finds herself pregnant after a rape, we do not judge the choices she makes.

I am descended from American slaves. I have foremothers who found themselves pregnant with children whose birth increased the wealth of the very man who enslaved and raped them. Somehow, through the angst and misery of that experience some of those women found a way to love and embrace the children they bore from rape. So I do not doubt the compassion or judge the choice of a survivor who carries a rape pregnancy to term.

But the whole point is choice. Consent. You see, Mr. Mourdock, the violation of rape is more than physical. Rapists strip women of our right to choose, of our right to say no, of our right to control what is happening to our bodies. Most assailants tell us it is our fault. They tell us to be silent. Sometimes they even tell us it’s God’s will. That is the core violation of rape– it takes away choice.

Richard, you believe it is fine to ignore a women’s right to choose because of your interpretation of divinity. Sound familiar?

Let me explain something to you. When we survive sexual assault, we are the gift. When we survive, when we go on to love, to work, to speak out, to have fun, to laugh, to dance, to cry, tolive, when we do that, we defeat our attackers. For a moment, they strip us of our choices. As we heal, we take our choices back. We are the gift to ourselves, our families, our communities, and our nation when we survive.

Now let me say this very clearly to you Mr Mourdock, and to all of your shameless endorsers: we did not survive an attack on our consent just to turn around and give up our right to choose to you. Not without a fight.

Are you sure you want to have that fight?

Sincerely,

Melissa

You Don’t Own Me PSA.

Watch, share, and go vote on November 6th! Your reproductive rights depend on it!

Also, feel the need to critique the cissexism present in this video. Not only women have their reproductive rights at stake here.

My girlfriend and I would just like to point out that Candy Crowley was the first women moderater of a presidential debate in TWENTY YEARS and she KILLED IT.

"People should consider getting married before having babies."

Mitt Romney

Um FUCK YOU, Mitt. I’m everything you wish your kids could be and I was raised by a single mother. She’s a better parent than you ever have been or ever will be. I’m out. FUCK YOU.

"Resistance is simply a measure of success"
[TW: Abuse, gender violence] 
thank you, chris brown. as if i needed yet another reason to change the radio station whenever your music comes on. what an asshole.
Source.

[TW: Abuse, gender violence] 

thank you, chris brown. as if i needed yet another reason to change the radio station whenever your music comes on. what an asshole.

Source.